Being Honest With Your Partner About Sex
- Miranda B
- Sep 21, 2017
- 2 min read
We definitely all have different needs and some people are just more compatible when it comes to sex. But when the sex becomes unbearable and dreadful it's either let your partner know or continue to suffer in silence.
One of my friends asked me, "how many times should you take sex before you let your partner know it's not popping anymore?"
My answer is, right away. Who has time for bad sex? Not that the relationship should be all about sex, but hell it is apart of it and if your partner is not pleasing you then I say speak up. It can only get better from there right?
There is definitely a proper and respectful way to reveal that to your partner and it is all in the delivery. You can't hit them with your sex is wack and expect them to even feel slightly secure about having sex with you again.
The approach I would take is to ask to try something that you like and hopefully once they see the way you react to it they'll continue to do it. That is to say that they're doing what it is you like the correct way. Everybody has had bad sex and it's definitely majority the first time you have sex with that person. It's all new. It's like riding a bike with the training wheels again. You get nervous and think about things that don't even matter, so your head isn't fully in the game.
Who's not guilty of that?
I mean it's life. But if you get past that first awful time and it doesn't get any better trust me it's because you're not trying. I don't fully believe that people can have wack sex, *insert thinking emoji* okay I take that back. Hahahaha!!
I'm no where near being a sex expert, but I can voice my opinion on this because I can relate. I say before you give up on the sex just try different things. Try to set the mood, light candles, play some music, add in some amazing foreplay and a massage and hopefully that will get it popping.
While I'm speaking on this topic I want to point out that I'm speaking to the couples out there. I'm not talking to those "friends with benefits" or little sex buddies, but to the actual couples. Healthy sex can make for a healthy relationship and always remember that communication is key!
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