Realizing You Are The Problem In Relationships
- Miranda B
- Mar 16, 2017
- 2 min read
Being the single friend of the group is never fun. Your friends are in long-lasting relationships while you can barely seem to get past the talking stage. And when you do start dating everything comes crumbling down. It’s time to realize you are the problem. The only thing holding you back from a successful relationship is yourself. I know it seems like a lot, but trust me it’s not. The first helpful thing you can do is admit you are the problem and then be willing to help resolve the issue or issues at hand. It’s not going to be easy, but it’s going to be worth it.
Rihanna said it best: “I can pretend that I’m not lonely, but I’ll be constantly fooling myself. I can pretend that it don’t matter, but I’ll be sitting here lying to myself. Some say love ain’t worth a buck, but I’ll give every dime I have left to have what I’ve only been dreaming about.”
Her are three signs that you are the problem in relationships.
1. Every person you’ve dated complains about the same things.
Now I can understand one or two people, but if every person you’ve dated says you’re controlling then dammit you’re controlling. It’s time to look in the mirror. I know it’s hard to break a habit, but you have to at least try if you want a relationship to last. You’re not expected to be perfect, but realizing there is a pattern and changing your ways is step one.
2. You can’t admit when you’re wrong.
Every time an issue arises you point the finger. Placing the blame on your significant other is never the way to go. Learn how to own up to your wrong doing. The situation at hand may not be fully your fault, but own up to what is. A great relationship is a healthy one.
3. You put yourself first.
Compromise, compromise and compromise! You’re not going to get anywhere by being selfish. It can’t always be about YOU! A relationship is shared between two people for a reason. You showed interest in the person for their personality, likes, and dislikes. Allow them to open you up to their world and share their interest with you instead of always picking your favorite restaurant or going to see the movie you want. Allow the person to be a breath of fresh air for you.
Originally blogged on CampusLately.com
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