Does Your Ex Deserve A Second Chance

In a recent conversation with some of my girlfriends the topic of relationships came up of course, and we were talking about what’s going on currently in our love life. The topic expanded to us talking about our exes and what we learn from those relationships and if ever in the future could we give that person a second chance. Now everybody is entitled to their own opinion, but in the words of Yo Gotti, “yea I love that a** to death, but ain’t no second chance.”

It’s going to be a smooth no for me. I just can’t do it. I’m all for forgiving people for their actions and other things, but I don’t owe you a second chance. That may sound a little selfish and you may ask yourself “what if in the end it turns out he’s the one?” My answer is “then I’ll deal with it when the time comes.” Lol. No, but seriously there are too many guys out there to dig in the recycling bin looking for love. I understand the whole “makeup and breakup concept,” which this doesn’t apply to. I’m talking about we dated in 2014 and here it is almost 2017 and you want to give it a second-go-round after you’ve exhausted all of your options, Nah I’ll pass.

Yes, I do understand that some people meet and date at the wrong time in their lives. For example, Chilli and Usher. If Usher had have been a little older they would’ve lasted. Chilli even said it herself, but as you see they never gave it a second chance. Some relationships come along strictly as a lesson and some come as blessings. Once the relationship has ended and each party has gotten their closure and a year or two has gone by and there has been no communication at all then it’s a wrap.

Why bother to conjure up all those old feelings only to let yourself down again. Not that a person can’t change they can, but if a person couldn’t get it right the first time and it caused a breakup, not time apart, but a breakup then save yourself the heartache.

People have the hardest time understanding that sometimes you’re preparing the person you’re with for the next that comes along. No, we don’t think about it at the time because we’re in it for the long haul. If that moment comes and your partner has cheated on you or disrespected you in a way that’s hard to let go then don’t settle. Don’t feel like no one else will come along. They will and I feel as if that’s what most people are afraid of. They tend to give someone a second chance because they’re comfortable with that person and they’re afraid of starting over or being alone.

Know what you bring to the table, know that your love is one of a kind and give it out sparingly.

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Originally blogged on CampusLately.com

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